Are you looking to rev up your love life? Whether you’re in the throes of a whirlwind romance or comfortably settled in a long-term one, here are five alternative sexual experiences you and your partner should try.
Get Creative with Role-play
Has sex become a little bit same-old? Are you and your partner stuck in a romancing rut that’s leaving you both feeling a little dissatisfied? If you’ve lost that sexual spark or have resigned yourself to quick, lusty romps between episodes of your favourite series, why not get creative with sexual role-play.
Role-play isn’t just for kids. Sexy role-play is a game of seduction where you both adopt a persona and enact a steamy scenario to get you both in the mood. To play, all you need is an active imagination, a dash of creativity, and maybe a costume and a prop or two. No need for Oscar-worthy acting skills either — all that’s needed is an open attitude, a willingness to be vulnerable to your partner and a commitment to your scenario. Whether you’ve always dreamed of switching the roles and dominating your partner, the idea of a frisky fireman gets you going, or you want to reenact your first meeting, establish your characters, set the scene and get down to it.
Fantasy and creativity are integral to keeping your sex life ablaze, so bringing a bit of creativity into the bedroom through role-playing can have excellent benefits for your love life. Think of it as foreplay for the mind, as well as the body.
Get Intimate with Sexual Massage
Imagine the scene — you and your partner are naked, slathered in oils, bathed in flickering candlelight while a gorgeous masseuse titillates and stimulates your erogenous zones. Sounds like heaven, right?
More and more adventurous couples are discovering the erotic appeal of sensual massages. Combining the relaxing strokes of traditional massage with the eroticism of erogenous play — it’s the sexiest way to get your blood pumping in all the right places. Getting a couple’s massage is like undertaking an intimacy-boosting ritual that helps you and your partner reconnect and open up to one another in a safe and nurturing space. And it’s way more fun than your bog-standard couple’s therapy. Designed to awaken your sensuality and supercharge your sexual energy, you’ll feel the benefits long after you’ve left the room. Trust us.
Get Steamy with Erotic Literature
Thanks to a certain Mr Grey, erotic literature is back on the bookshelves and steamier than ever. Whether you love Fifty Shades or loathe it, erotic literature is a great way to heat things up before getting down.
Reading stimulates your mind and imagination in a way that is unique, so it’s a sure fire way to get primed for some fiery, passionate intimacy. To take your erotic reading to the next level, take turns reading out loud from your favourite erotic book. As your partner reads, imagine that you’re both the lead characters, and everything that happens to them happens to you — believe us, you’ll be throwing the book aside after only a few minutes.
There are loads of great erotica out there — it’s not all moody businessmen and mousy interns you know. Find something that speaks to your particular brand of kink and let the book do all the hard work — it’s foreplay for your mind and your body!
Get Good Vibrations with Sex Toys
Most of us have experimented with sex toys in our solo play, but how many have been brave enough to bring our favourite tools and toys into our relationships? Talking to partners about sex toys can be a bit daunting — what if they take it the wrong way and think that you need toys because they aren’t enough? But in sex, being timid rarely pays off.
Sex toys supercharge the act of sex. It’s as simple as that — it’s literally what they’re designed to do. Incorporating some good vibrations and extra stimulations into a sexy session is only ever going to boost it. Most women find it easier to get off through clitoral stimulation, so why not let a cheeky vibrator do the hard work while you work other parts of her body. But don’t be fooled, women aren’t the only ones to benefit from sex toys during sex — there are plenty of sex toys that take a man’s pleasure to mind-blowing heights. Start simple and build your way up — handcuffs, ties and lube are all good places to start. Once that initial barrier comes down, you can open yourselves up to a whole new world of technically enhanced pleasure.
Get Kinky with a Third Person
Threesomes may not be everyone’s cup of tea, but for the right couples, it can be a transformative experience. After all, variety is the spice of life! Bringing an extra person into your bedroom routine is a sure-fire way to mix it up. There’s something delectably naughty about indulging in the taboo, and threesomes well and truly fall into that kinky category. The best part? Many hands make light work, so that extra body in your bed could help you to get into places of pleasure you never even knew were there.
Finding a “unicorn” — a person comfortable with being a third in your bed — takes time and effort, so make sure you do your homework. And go about it with care and respect. The last thing anyone wants is to end up feeling like a third wheel.
Author Bio: Charlotte Willoughby works for UK Massage Guide, the most comprehensive sensual massage directory in the UK.