Phone sex is a fun, frisky and safe way for two consenting adults to enjoy each other’s company – without actually having to be in each other’s company. By doing this, you can simulate some form of sexual activity and get the fix you need in a controlled and enjoyable environment. What’s best is that you can do this in the comfort of your own home – or wherever takes your fancy!
Sex calls can occur over long distances or within your locality, depending on the service you choose. You can either phone a professional sex line and talk to a ‘performer’ or get in touch with someone like-minded in your area who is also looking for a chat. Whichever method you choose, it’s important that you are confident, comfortable and chilled out – otherwise what’s the point?
Are you finding it difficult to relax and be yourself on a kinky phone call? Phone sex can spice up your sex life. Perhaps it’s your first time and you are a bit nervous about what to expect? Not to worry! Follow these tips below and you’ll be sure to have the best phone sex experience possible!
You Have to Relax
First and foremost, as with any other sexual activity or experience, it is important to relax. If you can’t relax then you are probably not going to enjoy yourself, and neither will the other person. Being uptight, nervous or unwilling to participate will ensure your experience is not the greatest. You are in the comfort of your own home (or wherever you have chosen to take the call), you are safe and in control of your own conversation. So, enjoy yourself!
Set the Mood and Look the Part
The person on the other end of the line can’t see you, what you look like or what you are doing. That doesn’t mean you should ignore the aesthetics and the ‘mood’ of your surroundings though. If you are sat on your sofa fully clothed with all the lights on – with the local news on the TV in the background – this is hardly going to make you feel sexy, is it!? Dress the part, look the part, light a few candles, put some smooth RnB on the stereo (or whatever you get down to) and immerse yourself in the moment.
Don’t Change Your Voice!
For whatever reason, perhaps due to embarrassment, many people try to alter the sound of their voice when on a sex call. It’s almost like a coping mechanism to avoid the awkwardness of using a sex chatline for the first time. Firstly, this won’t make the experience genuine and, secondly, it is too hard to keep up (pun not intended)! Once you have used a fake voice you have to maintain it through the call – which essentially means you are acting and not being yourself. If different accents and performed voices turn you on, they by all means have a blast! Otherwise, just don’t do it!
It’s Okay to Laugh
This is perhaps the most important and most liberating piece of advice on this list – it is completely okay and natural to laugh or giggle. In fact, we recommend it! Let’s be honest here, phone sex is hilariously funny! Two people moaning down the phone to each other, when you think about it, is funny as hell! Therefore, you shouldn’t avoid laughing about it. Some people giggle through nervousness, others laugh because they genuinely find it humorous as well as sexually satisfying. You’re not embarrassing yourself or anyone else by giggling – it just shows you can have a sense of humor about it and that you are enjoying yourself.
Be Physical
As Olivia Newton-John would say – let’s get physical, physical! A conversation might be enough for many people, but in truth what is phone sex without a touch of physicality? Just an everyday conversation, right? Don’t be afraid to let your hands wander all over yourself when talking on the phone – you could even let the person on the other end of the line see your naughty antics! Send them a photo/video or connect via video call for even more fun!
Be Vocal with Dirty Vocab
This is your opportunity to say the things you’d never dreamt of saying before, to whisper the phrases that make you go wild and to shout all the obscenities that would once have your mouth washed out with soap! Phone sex comes with a glossary – a dictionary of naughty terms if you will – and one that you shouldn’t be afraid of using. Say whatever it is you want to say – as dirty as you want it to be.
Take Advantage of Technology
As mentioned above, sending photos and videos is a great way to liven the action up even further. Technology nowadays enables us to send high-quality videos in an instant – or at least share them via popular apps such as SnapChat, Kik and Wickr. Video calling your phone sex partner can be a real turn on – give it a try!
Be Open to Ideas
Remember that a phone sex experience is shared between two people (at least) and it’s not all about what you want. The other person is involved too, and it is equally important/fair for them to live out their fantasies along with yours. So be open to ideas and suggestions that may have never crossed your mind before. The fact that you are participating on a phone sex line means you are already the sort of person who is up for trying something different from the norm. Embrace this attitude and use it to your enjoyment!
Most of All – Don’t Rush!
Last, but certainly not least, on our list of phone sex recommendations. Do not rush! Good things come to those who wait, and even better things come to those who take their time once it comes! Take your time, enjoy the experience and live every second of it. If you follow this tip (and all the ones above it) you are sure to have the best phone sex experience possible!