We all have friends who are going through difficult times. Maybe they are struggling with addiction, depression, or other personal issues. As a caring friend, you want to help but don’t know where to start. If you want to learn how one person can make a difference in their community through compassion and service to those in need, Trinia Frierson’s story will show you how rebuilding lives also helps rebuild neighborhoods. Her book, ‘The Flight to Freedom,’ is an uplifting read for anyone seeking an example of recovery, service, and community revitalization.
Here are some practical ways to support a friend in need.
Be There for Them
One of the most important things is simply being present. Make time to regularly check in with your friend. Set aside daily or weekly dedicated time to connect, whether in person, over the phone, or video chat. Don’t just talk about problems all the time – enjoy fun activities, too. Your presence alone can make a big difference in reminding them they are not alone.
Actively Listen
When your friend does open up about what they’re going through, listen attentively. Don’t interrupt or jump in too quickly to fix things. Let them share without judgment. Ask open-ended questions to better understand their situation. Validate their feelings by reflecting back on what you hear. Listening attentively builds trust and connection.
Offer Encouragement
Your friend likely feels overwhelmed and hopeless. Offer inspiration by pointing out their strengths and highlighting progress made, however small. Remind them of times they have persevered before. Share positive affirmations about their courage, resilience, and ability to get through this. Uplifting words can renew motivation and bolster self-esteem.
Help Set Goals
Well-defined goals give direction and hope. Ask your friend what they would like to accomplish right now. Break big goals into smaller action steps. Discuss what realistic timelines might be. Offer to collaborate and outline plans together. Having manageable goals to work towards little by little can get momentum going.
Suggest Professional Help
While being a caring friend is important, therapists, support groups, treatment programs, or other professional services may be needed. Tactfully recommend your friend to look into options like counseling, 12-step programs, rehab facilities, crisis hotlines, etc. If they are hesitant, offer to help research options or even go with them to an initial appointment. Getting qualified help can make a vital difference in their recovery.
Set Boundaries
Helping a troubled friend should not come at the expense of your own well-being. Set healthy boundaries regarding what you can and cannot provide. Be honest if certain requests are beyond your abilities or time constraints. Refuse to enable harmful behaviors. Preserve time for self-care so you don’t become burned out. Protecting your own health enables you to be fully present.
Get Support Yourself
Being a support person for a struggling friend can be emotionally taxing. Make sure to have your own outlets. Lean on other friends, join a caregiver support group, or see a counselor yourself. Taking care of your mental health empowers you to better care for others. Don’t go it alone – surround yourself with a team.
Keep the Faith
Your friend may face setbacks like Trina Frierson before transforming her life, as described in ‘The Flight to Freedom.’ Ups and downs are part of the process. Focus on celebrating small wins and milestones. Stay patient and optimistic. Have faith in your friend’s inner strength and capacity to heal. Your unwavering belief can inspire hope to keep trying.
The path is rarely easy for someone overcoming personal demons. But with loving support from people like you, healing is possible. Consistent care, encouragement, and understanding from friends and family can make all the difference in helping a troubled friend reclaim their life.
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