Hi! I am Mike, I am a 42-year-old single father of a five-year-old girl.  I have had some terrible experiences in dating and decided to write this post.

So first, and foremost, I want to share something I posted on Facebook a couple of weeks ago.

Dating today is a whole different vibe. With apps, social media, and constant connectivity, it feels like we’re constantly “meeting” people—but are we really connecting? 🤔 In 2024, we’re more empowered than ever to set our own standards, define our own relationships, and choose what makes us truly happy.
But it’s also a reminder that genuine, meaningful connections still require time, effort, and a little vulnerability.
Somewhere along the lines, we lost the actual idea of dating. It used to be you talked to someone (if you hadn’t met up with them, you meet up with them).
If the date goes well, you move on to a 2nd date and so on.
During that time, you are trying to get to know that person and see if you are compatible.
But nowadays, the problem is we are going on second dates with person A, B, and C, while setting up first dates with D and E.
To that extent, I ask you how can you truly know if you are compatible with person A, if you are also trying to see if you simultaneously compatible with person B, C, D and E.

Society has forgotten what the phases of relationships are.

It used to be the “Talking Stage” (seeing if this is someone you want to meet)

Dating (Exclusive Stage meaning you went on a 1st date with them and wanted to explore more with them, Move In Together, Get Engaged, Get Married.

The problem is now dating has changed to “Talking & Dating” is the same step and it’s now considered a “commitment” to only go on dates with one person.

No, that’s called respect for the person’s time so you are both not wasting your time. Commitment is when you sign a lease to live together, being exclusive with someone, is not a commitment its respect.

We as a society have lost track of meaning of words and think that people owe us things sort of an entitlement.

It’s no longer just about swiping right; it’s about swiping through life with people who get you. Whether it’s deep conversations, spontaneous adventures, or just shared laughter, authentic moments matter more than ever.

So, here’s to taking chances, being true to ourselves, and maybe just maybe getting back to normalcy in 2025.

They say be the change you want to see well I am being the change I want to see. 

Comment what you think let me know your experiences, if this works out I will write more parts of this topic.

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