By Ron Alexander
Every guy wants to be able to impress women, and anyone who says otherwise is either gay or flat out lying.
In fact, most of what we do as men is driven by our natural desire to impress women in order to gain access to them sexually. That’s why they buy fancy cars, go to the gym five times a week and in some (unfortunate) cases even work at high paying jobs that they absolutely detest.
If it wasn’t for our natural desire to impress women, in order to have sex with them, all of these things would be rendered obsolete. Unfortunately, despite what the media and your parents may have led you to believe, none of the typical ways in which men try to impress women actually work.
Yes, it is true that a lot of men who are successful with women do these things (like buying women expensive jewelry), but that doesn’t mean that that is what causes women to be attracted to them in the first place. They’re not. These things are merely a byproduct of who he is as a man, which is what women really find attractive.
Think about it. Just because an insecure little wimp is driving around in a Ferrari or buying women expensive dinners, that doesn’t make him any less of a wimp. In fact, 9 times out of 10, it makes him look like even more of a wimp, as he is clearly overcompensating for something.
The fact that he feels the need to impress women actually makes him less attractive as a man. What I am about to say next is of vital importance. Write it down somewhere so that you don’t forget it.
Seriously.
I’ll wait…
Ready?
Ok. Here it is.
Believe it or not, one of the best ways to impress a woman (especially one of particular beauty) is to do one simple thing. It is very simple and anyone can do it.
Stop trying to impress her!
Seriously. Stop it.
Trying to impress a woman sends the message to her that you believe that her value is higher than yours and that you need to make up for it by trying to impress her. That’s why doing things like bragging and showing off for a woman actually do the opposite of what you intend them to do. They send the message that you feel the need to over-compensate for your shortcomings in order to earn her affections.
Instead of demonstrating your genetic value as a man, it demonstrates that you feel the need to show her how cool you are, because you feel inferior to her, which kills any chances you have with her right off the bat.
Only men who feel inferior to a woman (or anyone else for that matter) feel the need to try impress them, as they are the only ones who need to do so. Johnny Depp for instance wouldn’t try to impress anyone, because he already has incredibly high value.
That doesn’t mean that he would cease doing things that are impressive as they are part of what makes him who he is as a man. It just means that he wouldn’t do them to try and impress anyone. Rather he would do them because he enjoys doing them, because that is part of who he is as a man.
At this point, I’m sure some of you are saying to yourself, “Great! So, if I don’t have to impress her, that means I can just sit around and do nothing and still attract high quality woman into my life, right?”
WRONG!
While you should never TRY to impress a woman, you definitely need to my second way of being able to IMPRESS her.
Just because you shouldn’t try to impress women, that doesn’t mean you should not be able to impress them. Inability to impress women is just as bad, if not worse, that trying too hard to impress them, because it confirms what bragging merely suggests: that you have little or no genetic value to her and therefore have virtually nothing to offer her in exchange for her reproductive value.
So, how do you go about impressing a woman without trying to impress her?
Simple. By being an impressive man.
Now the question becomes what is an impressive man and how do you become one? Believe it or not, it’s a lot simpler than you think. Being an impressive man means living your life to the fullest and being true to yourself at all times. It is about discovering your talents and then honing them to the best of your abilities in order to enrich your own life, and the lives of those around you by default.
It also means being confident enough to demonstrate those abilities in the presence of a woman without seeking her approval and validation as a reward for demonstrating that value. Attention from women is a byproduct of your gifts—a valuable byproduct, but a byproduct nonetheless. The real reward is how it makes YOU feel about yourself.
By the way, the better you feel about yourself, the better she will feel being with you. Make yourself feel amazing and she will feel amazing, too. My father always used to say “if you’re not comfortable in your own skin, you won’t be comfortable in hers either.” (Get it?)
In order to feel comfortable in your own skin, it is imperative that you grow as a man.
Personal growth and ambition are incredibly attractive to a woman as long as it is for your benefit and not just for hers. In other words, as long as it is authentic.
Self-improvement for the sake of attracting a woman is not authentic and is therefore of lesser value in much the same way iron sulfide (fools gold) is not as valuable as real gold. It’s pretty to look at, but it is ultimately counterfeit, and easily distinguishable from the real thing.
The bottom line is this: Although women are naturally impressed by what a man can do, she is even more impressed by who he is as a person. Gifts and talents can be taken away. Money can be made and lost in a heartbeat. Expensive cars can be totaled and/or repossessed.
Even a hard body will wither away over time.
The soul of a man who believes in himself and acts accordingly, however, is eternal and can never be destroyed or taken away. It is also sexy as hell and truly impressive to a woman of quality.